Episode 63: Your Desires Matter
Today I’m digging into how our desires hold keys to unlock who we are… which means a whole world of things for what you’re capable of doing in your business and in all elements of your life!
But to take one very necessary step back, it can be difficult to access our desires, especially for people who are traditionally left out of money making, who don’t fit the patriarchal mould that society typically connects with success. Conformity culture has told us to stay small, that our desires take up more space than we’re allowed and that it would be unacceptable, audacious, inappropriate, frivolous, or any type of just plain bad to follow them… which is one big lie!
Your desires can’t be bigger than you because they are you. When you begin to challenge your conditioning around staying small and follow your desires instead, you’ll start to see huge changes in your business and money making. Tune in for more on how!
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QUOTES
“My desire to be seen and heard, which is a very human desire, required more space than had been allotted to people like me. To women of certain sizes, to women who don't look a certain way… From a very young age (I) internalised the belief that my desire to be seen and heard, my desire to share my thoughts, my desire to just connect with humans in a way that really makes my whole soul light up, was wrong.”
“It’s any desire that takes us out of servitude to our fellow humans, out of kindness, or perceived kindness. Like, let's look at how women who do not desire children are treated. ‘Are you sure? Are you sure you don't want? You'll regret it. Who will look after you when you're older?’. Let them leave people to their desire. Why can't we just trust people?”
“Of course it all feels like a lot to follow your desires when you know that they are gonna lead you down paths that are not the ones that were laid out for you.”
“You see those kind of Instagram memes that are just like, ‘just go your desires, fuck everything.’ That's a very shortened version, that's the gist. But it doesn't take into account years, decades of conditioning, of real life tangible experiences. On top of that, the history of your ancestors and what people have experienced and the way that's passed down. And of course that's not your fault.”
“It's really useful to just start with the top layer. If you can identify, ‘you know what, I just really want some more money,’ then start there. Don't judge it. Don't judge it as not a good enough desire, because that is some internalised patriarchal nonsense.”